Up to 85% of people will experience low self esteem at some stage in their life. Everyone has self esteem and in different situations you may have a high self-esteem or a low self-esteem.
What is it – how does it feel
Self-esteem is confidence in your own worth and ability. People can have a high self-esteem where you may feel positive about yourself and life. This therefore means you may be able to deal with different situations more positively. However, you may have low self-esteem. If you do you may view yourself and your life in a more negative respect.
Symptoms of Low Self Esteem
- Lack of confidence
- Feelings of worthlessness
- Having unrealistic beliefs about your abilities or goals
- Distorted view of yourself
- Feelings of being unloved
- You may hide from social situations
- You may find it hard to make decisions
- You may also develop unhelpful habits, such as smoking and drinking too much, as a way of coping.
Causes of low self esteem
Self esteem develops from our experiences and relationships from birth. Most commonly it may be lowered:
- If you experience a stressful or traumatic event in your life
- If you have negative or troubled relationships with people in the past
- Some people are just more prone to negative thinking, while others set impossibly high standards for themselves.
No single event or person determines your level of self-esteem, it develops over time and can change with time and events.
How can I help myself?
There are many ways in which you can try and improve your self-esteem, for example:
- Identify your negative beliefs and start to challenge them
- Being compassionate to yourself
- Build positive relationships
- Set yourself challenges
- You can try and avoid your negative self-talk by challenging your thoughts
- Learn to be assertive and start saying no
What can we do?
At Heswall Hills Counselling Centre we can provide skilful counsellors who can help. For example, CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) this is a treatment we can provide that can help you tackle your low self-esteem. CBT treatment will help by challenging your negative views and beliefs about yourself. If you would like support in improving your self esteem please get in touch