Relationships are the glue that holds our societies together, isolation and loneliness have detrimental effects on our physical health. However, relationships can be tricky, sometimes they don’t go the way we would like them to, sometimes we lose sight of what was once important to us, sometimes we change our priorities and sometimes we have no idea that our partner feels the relationship is not working for them. These times can be very distressing, and couples can become stuck in a way of being that no longer serves them. This is when relationship counselling can help.
Research tells us that secure relationships can give us physical advantages such as protecting cardiovascular health (Kiecolt-Glaser & Newton, 2001; Smith & Gallo, 1999) and learning to work through conflict can be a way to ensure the longevity of a relationship (Gottman, 1994).
What can you expect from Relationship Counselling?
A relationship counsellor will not tell you how to fix your partner or your relationship, they will give you the time and space to explore the patterns that have developed within your relationship and the ways that you communicate and connect with your partner. Relationship counsellors may offer or suggest new ways to look at things which may help to change your interactions with your partner. Choosing new ways to be with your partner can make a difference to how you experience each other and can help to give new life to your relationship.
Relationship counselling can also assist when things need to change and couples decide to move on from one another, providing support and information about mediation, divorce and safety issues.
Working through relationship difficulties can result in a greater connection between couples, enhanced life chances and health benefits in addition to an increased stability felt by any children of the relationship.
Increasingly people are looking to improve their relationships at an earlier stage to prevent problems becoming a threat to the long-term health of the relationship. Working in a preventative way can help to increase the chances of the relationship being able to survive any difficulties which may come along in the future.
One of the biggest factors in the success of relationship counselling is the counsellor. Many counsellors offer relationship counselling, but have never received any additional training.
Relationship counselling isn’t just counselling – it’s a learned skill that requires a specialist.
At Heswall Hills Counselling Centre we have therapists trained in relationship counselling. If you would like support and help in working through difficulties in your relationship, please get in touch.